Field report at Chinese language class

So today's another interesting day for me.. first class tonight for learning Chinese and happened to sit next to a HB 8, and a HB 7 who's sitting next to her, HB 8's pretty cute but 5 years older than me.. while HB 7's 4 years younger.. hmm, and I'm right in the middle of the 2 age groups... managed to keep a good vibe going between the two and me though, which I'm quite happy about.. and I teased more of the 7, although I think I'm somehow more attracted to the 8...

So here are snippets or just a summary of my C&F bits that I remembered:

to HB 7
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1) teased her that's she's 37 when she mentioned that she's has a 9 year difference in age from HB 8
2) asked her whether she's lost when she's in the ground floor of the building waiting for her friends
3) Joked that she doesn't want me to leave the chinese class for another one

to HB 8
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1) teased her that she's married with 3 kids when we were guessing whether we're still studying or working.. I said this after guessing that she's still studying..

So, not much C&F with HB8, but still managed to talk in a light hearted manner which was fun for both HB8 and HB7.

However there's another younger HB8 which seems like the sassy type sitting right in front of me which I didn't have the chance to talk to though, Hmm.. she's the one I'm more interested to know.. will have to make some plans on my next steps..

Will also have to make plans and try my best to befriend the class.. and have social proof everywhere, create jealousy plotlines betwee HB8 and HB7 above.. and possibly a jealousy plotline with the sassy HB8 and the other two HBs.

Preparation for workshop and rock climbing today :)

Right.... time to do a plan on what I have to do to prepare for my upcoming Modern Man workshop this March.. Let's see, what I think I'll have to do is:

1) Preparation of what to wear.
2) Read the masf at www.fastseduction.com as much as possible and take
down points of good openers and storylines to try out.
3) Summarise Mystery method review the points.
4) email Modern Man and ask whether I'll need to any other preparations and to give a bit of my background.
5) think what else I need to prepare and update this blog :P

Well, I'm feeling pretty nervous leading up to the main workshop, and I'm listening to this John Mayer song at the moment.. "Love song for no one" which is really pretty cool, one of the lyrics goes something like: "I could have met you on the sandbox, I could have passed you on the sidewalk, I could have missed my chance and watched you walk away...... "

I really believe that for every guy that sees a girl he finds attractive, and doesn't dare or feels too nervous to approach, it's really letting an opportunity pass by.. unfortunately, guys have this fear of approach built into us.. (according to Mystery) which fits into the caveman theory that if you approach the wrong girl, you can get bashed up by some guy bigger than you..

So.... I really hope that this workshop can help me get rid of that and be the guy I truly want to be :)

On another unrelated note, today's rock climbing was fun!! Saw some cute Japanese girls doing some rock climbing as well, but didn't really know what to say or how to open them.. Will have to think of some openers for next time.. and I really think rock climbing's a great place to take a date too.. if they're into this extreme adventure sports stuff.. also, when you're belaying, your date's safety is in your hands, and maybe that somehow psychologically helps in your favour..?? somehow.. maybe :)

Field report at the pool

More of a post for me to rant and rave about my AFC behavoiur.. not much of a field report,

Felt really disappointed today.. was swimming at a pool and there's this really cute girl swimming in the same lane as I was. There was even some EC when we're on opposites side of the lane.. hmm. and all the time I was having approach anxiety.. :( And when we're both on the same end of the lane, I can feel this uncomfortable tension building up, as if it's really weird that we're both next to each other and yet not talking....

I think she must have someone sensed this though, because she ended up opening ME instead.. what perfect chance.. and yet I couldn't come up with anything C&F to say..

The conversation went something like this:

Her: Can I ask you something? What are these called? (Referring to the paddles that I have)
Me: They're called tech paddles..
Her: Oh do you think it helps?
Me: Blah blah something long drawn out about how it helps..
Her: So that means a yes..
Me: Why? Are you thinking of getting them?
Her: I'm not sure, I've seen people with it.
Me: Would you like to try them on.?
Her: Tries it on and swims for a while with it on..

And basically that was it.. after she returned my stuff to me.. I felt like somehow she could sense that I was a bit of a wuss.. and I just left :(

I am pretty sure I could have handled it better... oh well, try again another time.. :)

Edited on 26th February
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Okay, time for a post mortem of how I could have handled this better and some mistakes that I think I made:

1) Too technical in explaining what it is.. should have just said it is a "paddle" rather than "tech paddle"
2) When she asks me: "Can I ask you a question", should have immediately replied with "Depends,..." Or something C&F like "Yes,.... I am single" or "I'll have to check my schedule first... I'll get back to you whether I can go out on a date with you."
3) When I've asked her whether she'd like to try it on and she asks back "can I?" I should have made her jump through one of my hoops first according to the hoop theory and ask something back like "You're not a thief are you?" instead of just saying "yeah"...
4) Try and ask her more about herself and talk to her more about myself and then asking how to continue this conversation.. etc.. and get a time bridge or a bounce :P

Mystery is a genius!

Admittedly, my screen name comes in part influenced by Mystery, which is without a doubt a genius.. I'm still feeling pumped up after a late night watching his DVDs and now in the morning my head is just swimming with information that I can't help it but want to write it all down in this blogspot. Anyway, here's a "cheat sheet" for some of the things that really stuck out for me:

1. Wing theory
2. Reason for LMR and how to crack it
3. Attraction, Comfort and Seduction are location based.
4. You are a song..
5. Travel bag fetish
6. My brain's been hijacked....
7. Social proofing + How to DHV

Ther'es plenty more goodies in the DVD, definitely a must watch again, and this time to take detailed notes on everything,... :)

A side note on yesterday's event, somehow I managed to convince this HK girl (it was easier than I thought) to come out shopping with me. All I did was tell her to help me dress cool.

Well anyway, a few important things I realised after this little shopping exercise, firstly changing your entire image in one go is a scary thing.. somehow or rather you'd resist it, but I was fighting that urge all along the way and just played with it.. testing clothes just for the fun of it seeing how differently I look each time..

Another thing would be different girls have different ideas about how their ideal guy would dress like.. if say for example, a girl logically thinks she likes a nice guy so she'd prefer someone who dresses neatly and in a polite manner, she'd tend towards that, rather than helping a guy peacock and get attention from other girls.. she'd rather play it safe? Not sure whether this is true or not.. well need to field test it more.. :)

In the beginning...

OK OK OK!! I admit that I'm an AFC..
Now that I've spilled my guts and confessed (sounds suspiciously exactly like what an AFC would do..) the question now is, what am I going to do about it???

I strongly believe that things can change, and it will change for the better.. Anyway, here are my definitions of success:

1. Be confident enough to be able to approach and start a stimulating conversation with any girls that I just met
2. Able to project a strong and confident image through my body language.
3. Confident enough to get physical with girls when the time is right.
4. Meet and date a lot of girls. ( > 10 )
   
5. Be in a position of power and choice.
6. Not to be intimidated by feminine beauty.

As the first few steps towards my goal, I've signed up for the Modern Man lifestyle course: www.themodernmansite.com Also have been a famous lurker around the alt.seduction.fast newsgroup.. www.fastseduction.com Highly recommended website for those in the same journey as I am.

This blogspot, will be my documented process from chump to champ, ugly duckling to swan, and all the other yucky stuff to shiny stuff. I really look forward to the day when I can proudly proclaim to the world that I've reached the stage that I want to be in.