Craig's quick tips

Some quick tips from Craig from a DYD video.

1) Use the word maybe : "Maybe" I'll talk to you later.
2) Sit down with them and say, Sorry I'm late guys, traffic was bad blah blah, did you already get drinks without me? What did you get for me?
3) Name game - Make up stuff for each letter of her name

Another thing he did mention in the video is about how normal conversation is very bad for attraction, so don't be afraid to just stop the conversation at that point, and switch to something else. He also talks about how the art of talking about nothing, but making it very interesting and funny is good for attraction.

Monday and Tuesday

Monday.. opened up with the whether you can be a toothpaste model, On retrospect, I should have been more assertive with this opener. I have to put it in a way that I say she could be one. Not ask her whether she is one or whether she would like to be one.

Tuesday.. opened 3 girls :D First one in the coffee shop, I plowed through and made fun of her being a regular and knowing all the staff at the coffee shop and hi-fiving everyone when she walks in. (I should have gotten her number too!!)

Next one at the traffic lights, but soon parted ways.. I plowed through as well.

Third one in the gym, she was on the exercise bicycle, but didn't manage to stay long as I guess she's still exercising.

Things I learned
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1) I think I understand PLOWING much better now. It is not really stacking openers as what RSD seems to suggest. For me, my understanding is more like rolling with your opener long enough so that you can throw in some jokes and make her laugh and to by pass that few seconds when you initially open someone where they look at you stunned wondering why you're talking to them. I notice that when you make them laugh, instantly you're IN. And you can talk to them and they'll talk to you normally and you can continue on with the good vibe there.

Saturday 14th - another great night out

Today went to Brunswick instead of the usual city.

Went to a few laid back places and sarged there........ and then went into a high energy place (bimbos) and had some fun there too.

One bit realization from going out to these places is that people who go to laid back places, want to talk. While people who go to high energy places are less inclined to want to talk and they want to dance.

What made me realize this was that at Bimbos, there were these couple of girls at the dance floor. and went I started to talk to them, I notice the girl's mind was sort of wandering off and not paying attention. So I taught her the Melbourne handshake and she was really into that. However when I started talking again, then she started to look bored again.

Then.. there was this two set with an asian girl in it, and I previously talked to the girl at the bar, but she sort of brushed me off giving me the look. Later on I approached them again, but walking next to the girl who gave me the look and elbowed her gently. I turned and looked and she was all smiles and opened up. However I blew it for that one.

The other sets I did was pretty normal, I opened a set at Polly's who turned out to be working there and she seems quite well travelled as well. We talked for quite a fair bit, and I found out lots about her. We really did seem like we had a connection. However I felt like there wasn't really much of a sexual connection, no flirting going on etc.. so I left. So now I'm wondering how do I actually get the flirting going when we have so much connection going on??

Lessons learned
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1) In high energy places people wanna talk less, so BL is more important. also fun little kino games are good to play here as well, handshake games, handshake and then the twirl, thumbwars? Go and find out about other things which you can do here. And I think dance is also very important to do here as well.

2) How to amp up flirting when you are having a good vibe going on..? How to turn it sexual and kino more?

Friday the 13th.. very fun

Today went out with my wing, and met up with a couple of lair guys and tried to get into CQbar.

We first hung out at young and jacksons though, and I opened up this group who happen to be travelling. So I had a lot of fun talking to her finding out about what she's doing etc.. and she's very chatty.

Next, we tried to get into CQbar, but was knocked back because we didn't have any girls on us, so we went on to LalaLand.

Here I approached another set. Used an opinion opener, was pretty good, and there was this drunk girl as well, and my wing opened her.

Next went to GPO, and then opened 3 sets here. First one was a bunch of Italians. Here one of the guys asked me: So you're out looking for some ladies?

And I said.. Yeah, well I'm out being social, talking to people, and practicing my social skills. That guy laughed a little and said "Oh practicing your social skills" that's cute.. haha, I think that's a good answer when I next get that.

Then I moved on because it was obvious I wasn't going anywhere with that group, and I opened two asian girls by the bar. Used a direct opener like "Hey I saw you from over there and thought you were pretty cute, so I thought I'd come and talk to you" So I stayed as long as I could until they said that they have to go look for their friends, so I said talk to you later.

Next I opened an asian girl sitting by the table waiting for something. so I opened with "Hey I was a bit bored and you looked pretty bored too, so I thought I'come and talk to you."

Her: "Oh yeah, I'm just waiting for some friends"
Me: Damn those friends, how can they make people wait like that (in a funny tone and I noticed that she laughed a little and I knew I was in so I sat down in the chair next to her and started talking)

The interesting thing was that midway, this guy came up to the table and sat down too, obviously trying to cock block me, and was being a bit rude eventhough I was being friendly. Anyway, good experience of being AMOGed. I think I could have gotten this girl's number too though.

Next I opened a girl by the bar ordering drinks. Turned out she's like one of the owners of GPO or something like that. Opened up with "Hey, girls have this thing called a GAYDAR right?" Then I pointed out two people to her and asked her what she thought. That went pretty well, that we talked for a little bit, then she asked me my name and I found out hers.

Another interesting thing that happened tonight was that one of my wing's set which went out for hours. I joined him later on in his set, and we continued talking for another hour or so. Which thinking back, was really too long, should really have grabbed the number while we can. But they were really friendly and nice to talk to, so had lots of fun.

Lessons learned.
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1) I'm starting to think that there are some girls which are naturally more attracted to me, while other girls are not. The girls which I get most responses out of are the ones which are smaller than I am, and asian. I'm beginning to wonder whether it is because these type of girls are naturally more attracted to me because of physically I'm bigger than them or something else, but oh well.. this is just an observation from me at this point.

2) Keeping a positive vibe, eventhough I'm chilling alone at the bar. Another thing I did was to practice standing up positively and thinking positive thoughts and sending out positive signals to everyone. I notice that I feel more positive and therefore my Body language seems more positive as well. I think that is much better than thinking about things I did wrong etc.. and getting into my head.

3) Should go for the Number close.. Don't hesitate.. just DO IT.

4) How to transition from vibing very nicely to a more physical thing? Should go and read the physical escalation thing from de carlo or something like that.

July 7 - Beach club Docklands

I think I did about 5 approaches tonight. I don't think I did very well tonight, but hey I sure did try to get out of my comfort zone.

Some highlights of the sets I did:

Highlight 1
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Did the handshake and spinning the girls a few times, just testing it out, and I realize that all the girls will spin when you raise their hands up. Tried to do the thumbwars but then got ball busted by this girl but couldn't bust her balls back.

Highlight 2
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Was using opinion openers on a two set, and they started laughing, because earlier on my friend used the same opener on them. I tried to follow up with it, and then my wing came by and started using another opinion opener on them. Instantly I can tell that they started to lose interest. Sure was pretty funny.

Highlight 3
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I was sitting down and one girl sat on the back of the couch that I was sitting. I should have just leaned back on her right away, without asking for permission.

Newbie night - Friday 6th July 2007

Finally I got accepted as a full member in the Melbourne Lair.

All I had to do was to do 3 approaches, and that was pretty easy..

First set was a group set, next one was 2 girls in the street, and 3rd set was a group of Japanese and korean girls.

I also did 2 sets which I won't count, trying to stop people on the streets, but didn't manage to stop them.

At the end of the day, we had a long conversation with hypnostu, and some other lair members and I've learned heaps, especially from hypnostu. (thanks dude)

Lessons learned
1) Pay attention, pay very close attention to what the girl is saying not just with her words but what she's saying with her body. Be very attentive.
2) Always stay in the set until you get blown out. Don't blow out on your own, see how long and how far you can push the set until you get blown out.
3) iceman -> being very social and vibe with people.

After tonight, I decided to write a list of things which I have to work out. Sort of the collection of skill sets to ensure a successful pickup.
1) Improvisation
2) Language + communication skills
3) Noticing people, being attentive, observant
4) Good fashion
5) Being very social and vibing
6) Kino kino kino
7) Dancing (being comfortable in your own skin)
8) Voice projection
9) Reading people through body language
10) Aura of giving value rather than taking value
11) Story Telling